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Stafford Edwards's avatar

“Even the best dads leave gaps…”

One of the most succinct and poignant treatises I have ever read. It descriptively encapsulates the often overlooked and misunderstood humanity of fatherhood.

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Colleen L Holtz's avatar

Reading this makes my heart ache. Ache for the hearts of so many that lose out on a truly meaningful and beautiful relationship with their Dads. My dad was tough and kind! He gave 11 children love! He gave me strength! 💔

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Daniel Grothe's avatar

You’re a rich woman because of that love. And God the Father also knows how to fill in the gaps better than any of us could imagine. We all have those gaps. Thank God he knows how to make up for it. Love you, woman of God!

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Tony Montana's avatar

This really hit home… what you wrote about that “pang of safety” and presence over perfection was powerful. I never had a father myself and was adopted into an abusive household, so stepping into this role as a single dad with full custody has been meaningful but unfamiliar. I worry about being perfect a lot, constantly questioning if I’m doing enough or doing it right, but I’m just trying to do what I think is best, day by day. More than anything, I want to make sure my kid never experiences what I did. I know there will be more obstacles ahead, but reflections like yours remind me that presence matters more than perfection. I look forward to the afternoons and the chance to find guidance in new relationships as I keep growing into the father I want to be.

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Karen Mitchell's avatar

“I spend my days listening to stories of people who have had The Dad Space almost entirely evacuated.” — Thank you.

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Daniel Grothe's avatar

💔💔💔 Grace to you and yours.

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Zac Parish's avatar

After having a hard and holy conversation with my son last night I am blessed to have this today. Thank you.

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Daniel Grothe's avatar

You’re a great dad. Your son is blessed to have you.

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Dr. Jon Chasteen's avatar

Fantastic read my friend!

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Daniel Grothe's avatar

Thanks my brother!! Appreciate you.

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Jessica Sheasby's avatar

💙

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Robin Ernst's avatar

It's so important

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Tricia Wood's avatar

I felt a sense of holy awe when I read this.🙏❤️

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